Some of you my facebook friend might have notice.
My mother in law is here to stay with us for the next 3 month.
Some of my friends react like my whole world will end, some nod their hand in symphaty, but some ask me "why just three month?"
I understood that in many culture, mother in law (and especially if you are her daugther in law) impose certain hard-to-explain relationship. She used to be the woman of the family her son respect and love to some extent cases even handle his salary. She probably worked extra hour for him, do his laundry, decide what he wore or what he should eat. Now that her son married, his responsibility and priority shifted toward his wife and children. On the other hand, as a daughter of someone else with certain value and upbringing, it's hard to just embrace a strange woman and call her "mom" and really meant it. Therefore, there is nothing strange is daugther in law normally does not get along very well with mother in law.
I must say I am very fortunate in this case.
Many people think they wed a great man, but very few think they had a great parent in law.
In the culture where I came from where family ties are strong, it's important to have a good relationship with parents and parent in law likewise.
My mother in law in particular, are quite easy going person. She is much better than many born again christian in law out there (sad to say).
She does not question the way me and my husband run the household, she just tries to do whatever she can to help with the cooking, taking care of my son or ironing the laundry. She doesn't fuss about what my son eats, how hard we punished him, or how much we spend on things. She is very frugal and considerate too - she is so concern about energy saving and try to be as efficient doing anything. So, in return I take her to shopping trips, bought her dress and such, take her to short holiday to places she had never seen before. After more than a week, I start to enjoy her company, filling ladies chat of family history every night, watching some indonesian sitcom in youtube, exchanging recipe, watching my son try to read books to her.
So why just 3 month?
Yes, it makes me think I wanted to confiscate her passport!