Thursday, 30 September 2010

My birthday alone

Don't worry, although by all means the title sounded VERY negative... it is not!

It was my birthday few days ago, and obviously birthday girl is busy and therefore unable to blog on time :-)
It was rather different this year, for one certain reason an absence of my husband. But honestly, I hardly celebrate my own birthday this few years, and I am not bothered for not having one.

But guess what, this year I had most number of present, cards and well wishes. Many people probably feeling the emphaty if they were in my shoes - thank you so much!

So how do I survived with no husband for a week?
Actually I am doing rather good. Not saying I prefer to have this way of life - just to make clear the decision to have the family split on 2 different continent is a way to acheiving our family goal - a better future.
I managed to do quite a bit of painting, wallpapering, even screwing and patching on my own. Thanks to google! I also managed to keep the house clean, mopping, vacuuming the floor, do multiple loads of laundry, ironing, cooking and... taking care of my boy who recently got severe flu bug. I even managed to coach him on his math homework everyday. But there you go, the list never ends. In addition to that I've been busy taking him for his math tuition, to school, for his swimming lesson - mind you I still have a 9 to 5 job to do, so the day seems to end as quick as it starts.

The good thing is, I forgot to feel lonely. In fact neither of us (not me nor my son) feels the sadness. There is no time to feel sad! I am busy thinking what's to do next, what to be done tomorrow, what's missing from the fridge, what's bill is due, and moreover tomorrow my husband is off for his first day at work - I can never be more excited! And I guess the fact that both me and my son coping so well with his absence made my husband feel at peace.

I am actually very fearful that I will have "separating anxiety" will flooded over me when my husband left, afterall I build my universe around him, see him everyday, and he helped me with things around the house, what shall I do without him?
But thank God - His Grace is sufficient - I pray to him and He grant me with peace and joy, comfort and being my best companion. I find myself praising God all the time that not a drip of my tears drop as I sent my better half a sail. For that my Lord taking the credit.



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God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did,
this sinful worldas it is,
not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
--Reinhold Niebuhr

Monday, 27 September 2010

What we got from ebay

Guess what we got my boy from ebay for his "dressing up" act in school?

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p.s : thank you for those who has been praying for me and my family. My husband made it safely arriving in Jakarta last night. A new chapter of our life just begun, and for the joy and tears, I thank God for it!

Tuesday, 21 September 2010

Enjoying simple things in Life

As my husband is going to take a leap to a far country, I am treasuring memory we had while we are here.
Here is the entry I made more than a year ago.


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Lazy days....
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On a beautiful sunday morning before going to church, we had a stroll. The sun was so beautiful, it took my breath away.
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Eversince I stepped my feet in UK, I've learn to enjoy walking down the park, taking picture of my son, feed the ducks, push the swing, or chasing butterfly.
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I love to watch my son playing with leaves, feed the ducks together, ask me to push his swing higher, or simply watching him sitting on his daddy's lap.
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Thank God that simple things in my life can be this beautiful!
May you have a blessed weekend....

Monday, 20 September 2010

A Look Within

It's interesting how the Lord speak to us - His children.
In the middle of hectic schedule, lots of adjustment, stressful day at home and at work, my Lord has brought this book to my attention.

Everyone knows I am not an avid reader. This book has been given by Abbie Nicholson, my dear sister and helper in the Lord many months ago (or probably a year ago). But, in my laziness, I just discover it again today after unpacking tons of box and decide to have a read.
And it really blesses me - praise the Lord.

A lot of time I don't like to read christian book, especially the one that originated from US (no offence to my American friends).
Why? because many of them sounded unlogical and many times - bossy.
It is wrong if you are a woman and wear trousers, if you work in the office, if you can't bake and your children clothes are not ironed, if you have high education - that's very unlogical to me. The Lord never judge what we wear, He judge our hearts. The Lord even commanded everyone to labour with their own hand, otherwise one should not eat. The bible never mention about being good cooks either! In fact the first woman on the bible that I remember as a good cooks is Martha. And I hate christian who refuse to learn anything else outside religious matter - ignorance and laziness is not a Godly character. God gave us brain and talent, therefore use it!
Coming from a different cultural background, all this assumption is a GREAT stumbling block in my daily walk with Christ. I saw quite a bit of "baptist fundamentalist wives" who going about why my husband did house work, why I didn't do homeschooling, why I would allow my daughter to have a degree, but they still make a joke about their husband, yell at home, critizised someone less spiritual, and very loud in church. So I had decided to choose bible over all these books or people.
Now don't get me wrong, I never said it's wrong not to go to school, to crazy about being a homemaker, to wear skirt or to homeschool your children. I knew a lot of my blogger friends who if I put on their shoes I will do exactly the same. In fact, ms Loveless - her blog is one of my favorite, always explain logically the reason of her action. It's not important to execute the action, what's important is the motive behind doing the action. They have their hearts for the Lord and for their family, that's what's important.

Having to read "A Look Within", I really changes my mind about reading Christian books. The book talks a lot about our heart attitude to be humble, meek, slow to speak, submissive, less self adorn and self centred, kind hearted and strive to please our husband and the Lord. It does not say what you should or should not wear, what you should do at home or at work but rather to surrender to the Lord, pray about certain area in our lives and accept things we can't change.

This book - instead of sounded "all knowing" - it leaves a lot of room for thought and conviction, and instead the author do all the talking, she leaves it to the Lord.
This book really remind me of my friend - Abbie Nicholson.
Interestingly, she is one of a type that have a little say about anything and undomeneering at home or in conversation - but in fact this character that makes me curious. She had never yell, polite and respect her husband, patient to her children, slow to anger, a good listener in church. She is never be judgemental on what I wear or which cultural background I came from, instead she prayed for me, she listen to me, she tries to understand my circumstances, instead of critizising - she encourage me, having her as my friend is one of the best God gift for me, and a woman I am striving to be.

And more importantly, this book has prepared me to be left alone as my husband will be away for a long period of time - that is to rest upon the Lord and accepting things He laid for our life.
If you happen to be interested on this book. Here is where you can get it.

Tuesday, 14 September 2010

Mirror mirror on the wall, which the fairest of them all....

I love having mirror as part of my house decoration. Sometimes it can be the center piece like an overmantle mirror above the fireplace, sometimes it can be just an intermezzo to fill up empty space, and many times it does the bit to make a dark hall way or corridor much brighter by reflecting the light.
Picture are from All things Bright and Beautiful



Enough of lusting over those beautiful picture, now... where can I get "it"? Well, you can find loads of choice at HORCHOW, or may be... you should start to hunt on nearby antique shop.

All images are from HORCHOW website.





Click the image to enlarge, they are much prettier in details!

Thursday, 9 September 2010

Kind of missed my camera now...

No bed...
No wardrobe...
No kitchen...
No furniture...
No internet...

Sorry for the lack of update, but I had not gone for pictures hunting for a bit, and even when I did... I have no internet (this is typed from office) to upload them :-(

But I found exactly THIS to cheer up my day. Nothing than a funny entry by Karen Cheng.

Sunday, 5 September 2010

Thursday, 2 September 2010

The way to go on celebrating anniversary.

Yes, it was our 7th anniversary!
And this year, unlike many other years whereby it celebrated by fancy dinner, we decide to do something - just the two of us, but quite different.

We decide to hired a big van - something that my husband had never drive.
We went picking up some ebay bargain furnitur - just saves us hundreds of ££.
We went to pick up our son in a van! - He was soooo thrilled, he thinks his dad is cool. I really can't forget the big grin on his face as he sat in the van.
We went to IKEA for dinner and shopping some furniture.
We move our furniture up till 12 midnight.
On the way home, grab some macDonald and coke, then went to bed :-)

Apparently, both of us really enjoy it. We had a great "team building" time!

I must admit I have a big problem going for fancy dinner.
1. Normally dinner starts pretty late, at 7 or so... I am already dead hungry.
2. When I am hungry I can't think, and normally fancy dinner chef is rather slow... well, they are meant to be slow so you can enjoy the ambience - that's what your are paying for.
3. Sadly most fancy dinner size is about a pea on the middle of humongous plate.
4. I can sweep the dinner within 10 minutes of its arrival, due to hunger.
5. Can't stop thinking about my son with someone else.
6. As a result, after a total of 1 hour of waiting and only spending 20 minutes or so to eat, we left with huge bill and... still grumbling tummy. End up buying macDonald to fill the gap.

This year, I spend more money on my anniversary but that translate to 3 wardrobes and a dining table. Definetely will do it again next year!